Today’s English essay topic is: If we complain do we get what we want?
In my family, if we complain we do not get what we want. If we are in a store and we start complaining about we don’t get something, my parents would walk us out of the store. My parents do not tolerate us complaining, especially in a public area. Some families do allow their kids to complain. In some families, if their child started to complain they’d just get the item the child wanted. Parents 0 children 1. Therefore, you need to take charge! You shouldn’t allow your child to win. Never fall into their tricks. Now, I know that I am talking about myself by saying children, but I’m just stating what I’ve noticed and learned from my family and other families.
If you allow your child to complain that will make them pretty much un-likeable to other parents. I have learned that if you act on your best behavior at all times people will be impressed. How could you allow your child to embarrass you un front of your friends? You cannot allow them to do that.
When a child is screaming and complaining in a restraint, my parents, and myself, get pretty much annoyed. It is annoying to hear that! You must teach your kids that complaining doesn’t do anything but make it worse! Let’s, say you have a baby in your cart and a, seven-year-old, girl looking at all the toys. You’ve already told her she’s not getting anything but she can still look. She eventually finds a Barbie doll that she now, really wants. She starts by politely asking “mommy may I have this?” you say no, like you did before. You know she won’t give up there so you start to walk away. She grabs the doll and starts screaming and yelling at you asking if she could get it. You start to give in but you remember you can’t let your child win! As you stroll along with your daughter following behind, with the doll, everybody is looking at you. You start to feel very embarrassed. You finally give up and yell “FINE YOU CAN GET THE DOLL!” You are now very angry. Your child has now learned that if she tries hard enough she can get whatever she wants. This is not the right way to do this.
What should have happened is, you are shopping and your daughter is looking through the toys. She finds an American girl doll. At the time you know she has enough toys at home, so she doesn’t need anymore, you say “no”. She starts complaining. Because of this you walk away from the cart take the doll from her, put it back on the isle. You take her hand, pick up your baby, and walk right out of the store. At least this is how my parents would do it.
As you can tell, if you complain, your parents just get frustrated. If you ask and they say no, try again the next time you are in the store. People need to get used to hearing no! No means no and we must accept that. It’s a lot more responsible to not complain when you are told no. When your parents see that you are being responsible they will then re-consider the next time!
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